Oh Mercy

"So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." Ephesians 5:33 

Since G stepped out of football, we have spent more time together in the last 8 months than we have in the last 9 years.

This has been great, yet hard at the same time. We are learning a lot of new things about one another. 

And the Lord is teaching me a thing or two as well. The biggest is treating G with respect and building him up with words of affirmation, which just happens to be his love language. 

I am horrible at this! I will admit it! 

So seeking God’s help in this, I want to hit on a few verses that God has brought up from the store well of my heart. 

“In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands, even those who refuse to accept the Good News. Your godly lives will speak to them better than any words. They will be won over by watching your pure, godly behavior.” 1 Peter 3:1-2 

          -  G is a believer and lover of Christ and I am so thankful. So in that I must listen to him and respect his decisions for our family in all Spiritual matters. In doing so I can than also share my heart with him and know it will be received. 

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger.” Proverbs 15:1

            -Seek peace, no matter how heated the conversation might become.  I need to learn to hold my tongue, take a few minutes, let the Lord calm my heart, and then reply.  

“A wise woman builds her house; a foolish woman tears hers down with her own hands.” Proverbs 14:1

                I want a home built on Christ, not bitterness, frustration, stress, etc. This is up to me; I need to be active, obedient, and mindful of my home.

“A worthy wife is her husband’s joy and crown; a shameful wife saps his strength.” Proverbs 12:4

                -I can tell very quickly when I am zapping G’s strength. His entire body expresses it.

“Beginning a quarrel is like opening a floodgate, so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.” Proverbs 17:14

                -Is this worth making a big deal about? Don’t speak of something that will cause a fight. Take it the Lord first Kristi.

“It is better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a contentious wife in a lovely home.” Proverbs 21:9

                -This speaks for itself. Bless his heart!

“It is better to live alone in the desert than with a crabby, complaining wife.” Proverbs 21:19

                -Oh mercy help us Jesus. Baby thanks for not packing your bags.

I am beginning to see that how I treat G is how I treat the Lord; if I am ugly and hurtful, complaining and negative, disrespectful and lack love and mercy towards G, I also am treating Jesus the same way. And that just plain hurts!

Oh, mercy Father help me have more respect for You first, which will lead to more respect and love for G. I need Your help; I can’t overcome this on my own. Thank You for Your mercy and love for me at all times. Even when I don’t deserve it You give it anyway. Help me to be mindful of this, and show G the same love and mercy I am shown. This has been years of doing, years of hurtfulness that I can’t take back. Forgive Father I want to be a loving and respectful wife. Keep me accountable to this Father. Amen